It was probably a big emotional moment. Your best friend asked you to be maid of honour. You’re touched. You’ve probably cried a little bit with joy. It’s all just so exciting. Then it hits you. Just what does being maid of honour really mean? Panic ensues and as the day approaches, sheer terror, as you realise it’s way too late to ask just what it is you’re actually supposed to be doing.
Well, don’t worry readers. We’re here to help. We’ve read all the wedding books, had the experience and literally got the t-shirt. So don’t panic. Below is a detailed list of everything that’s expected of you.
The Hen Do
This is probably your number one responsibility before the big day. It’s your job to make sure the bride has the very best send off before she ties the knot. Remember, this is not about you. Think carefully about what kind of party your bride-to-be really wants, enlist the help of the other bridesmaids, then make it happen.
This is a relatively recent US import into the maid of honour’s repertoire. It’s often the case that the bride’s mother or sister(s) will handle most of the planning but you need to be on hand to organise food, invitations, venues or anything else that’s needed.
Believe it or not, your opinion counts. Which is why the bride might very well want you there when she’s dress shopping. Be honest, but remember that tact is always a good idea (even if it’s a terrible choice).
On the day
Basically, you’re at the bride’s beck and call. She’s going to be mega-stressed and probably bite your head off at several points throughout the day. Grin and bear it. Trust us. This is the best way for everyone to get through it.
Witnessing the marriage
Traditionally, you and the best man will be the ones to sign on the dotted line and make everything nice and legal. It’s a formal recognition of your role on the day.
Once all the formalities are out of the way, there’s a huge release of tension and your bride will probably need a bit of emotional support. And, depending on who she’s marrying, your role as unofficial counsellor may last for several months before and after the big day.
This is by no means a comprehensive list. There are countless other little jobs that fall within your remit. You’ll be informed about these along the way and on the wedding day itself. Just remember to be patient, smile and wait until it’s your turn to pick a maid of honour.